Why do you keep putting basi in a shot glass; sweets and bread, meat and fish on a plate for the dead? Isn't that like keeping the porch light on at night, hoping they'll find their way back home? It's been more than thirty years. Perhaps they want to move on now. Perhaps it's only our attachments that keep them haunted. The older we get, the more we remember: they didn't even like noodles or alcohol or cake.