The UPS clerk asks me what's in the parcels I'm mailing to my daughters. Sweets, I say. What kind? she asks, her eyes twinkling. Homemade, I answer. And she has a sweet face, open and mostly unmade-up, except for a slick of strawberry lip gloss. I find myself wondering if she has an ordinary life— rise in the morning, part her dark hair down the center and tie it into a bun; punch in at work, leave at the end of her shift, buy groceries or diapers for her toddler, go home to do laundry, make food or watch TV or do trivia night without feeling that something must be empty or missing.